Tanya Dalton, amazing author and motivational speaker, joins us on today's episode of How to Sell Online with some life-changing information!!
She is all about feeling more accomplished by actually doing less. She’s so passionate about this topic and has written two amazing books, “The Joy of Missing Out” and “On Purpose“, to share everything she knows about this topic.
One thing that Tanya realized early on is that while we all have different stories and backgrounds, we all share one thing in common…the overwhelm.
How do we get out from under this feeling and take control of our time? How do we accomplish more by doing less?
Tune in now to find out!
“The Joy of Missing Out” by Tanya Dalton
Tanya is passionate about telling real stories about real women. As she has gotten to know women from all walks of life, she noticed they all had one thing in common. Can you guess what it was? You guessed it! They all felt overwhelmed. Tanya’s first book, The Joy of Missing Out, was written to take some of that overwhelm and make it go away.
Women sometimes feel they are expected to do it all. Not only that, they feel that they have to do it perfectly AND look good while doing it! What’s even worse is that women internalize a lot of that pressure. You can mark off every item on your to-do list and STILL lay in bed at night feeling unaccomplished. SO crazy! Honestly… When was the last time you went to bed and felt like you had a perfectly productive day?
Tanya's take? Be happy. Yes, easier said than done, but when you think about it, if women are happier, wouldn't that make them better mothers, sisters, daughters, workers, and friends? Tanya’s advice is to cut yourself out from the hustle culture. Declare yourself FREE and don’t be afraid to miss out on things! Shift your energy and time to the things that feed your soul.
“On Purpose” by Tanya Dalton
Tanya firmly believes that if you live your life trying to please everyone, you’ll end up miserable. It is OK to disappoint others… The one person you shouldn’t disappoint is YOURSELF. When you spend your time doing things you love, that's when joy fills your day.
Overwhelm is not having too much to do. It's not knowing where to start. Your to-do list is taking you to a lot of places – except toward where your heart really wants to go. Stop chasing everything in pursuit of everybody else's benefit and happiness. We need to stop lying in bed at the end of the day feeling like we didn't do enough, even though we checked off a long list of tasks. Make space for joy so our days are fulfilling and feel worthwhile. The trick is to turn your “to-do list” into a priority list.
Having a purpose is like having a light at the end of the tunnel. It helps you crush through the overwhelm and stay focused on what matters. Tanya talks about it in her new book On Purpose.
So how do you find your purpose? You have to define your identity. But amidst all the overwhelm, how do you even do that?
Tanya says, “You have to look backward in order for you to look forward.”
Take time to reflect on who you really are. One great exercise is to recall who you wanted to be when you were younger. Was it a superhero, fireman, space astronaut, or detective? As logical adults, all these dreams might sound silly now.
But, by digging into that past, we unravel essential pieces of ourselves. We don't have to take the answers literally. If you dreamed of being Wonder Woman as a child, that doesn't mean that your destiny now is to fight bad guys with your superpowers and exemplary fighting skills.
It means you have to take a closer look at what you loved about her! As an adult, you can now investigate what it was about Wonder Woman that resonated with you so much. Was it her eagerness for truth? Ability to serve justice? Use the past to see your future and move in that direction.
Tanya has a lot more to share with us about finding our purpose and joy; tune in now!
Top 10 Takeaways to Listen For and Explore:
- You don't have to do it.
- Choose to do the things that have meaning to you.
- Overwhelm is not having too much to do. It's not knowing where to start.
- Don't make a to-do list; make a priority list.
- Do less in your day.
- Define what success is.
- Look backward in order to look forward.
- Live life on your own terms.
- We make a bigger impact when we are happier.
- Find the joy of missing out.